Maldivians Drowning in Negative Self-Talk
Monday 2nd of December 2019
Maldivians Drowning in Negative Self-Talk
Do you ever wonder how your mind comes up with negative self-thoughts like “I am not good enough”, “if people really see who I am, they’ll leave me” and “I am such a disappointment.” We let such thoughts sink into our mind during situations because we tend to give up and give in too fast. So the question is how do you stop dragging yourself down when you mess up at work? How to go from “I’ll be single forever” to “it will work at the right time.”
1. Keep an eye on your mind
First and foremost, be aware of what’s going on in your mind. Learn to know when the critic consumes you. Then question yourself. “Is this true or is it just the perception in my head?” Next, replace the negative thought by calming yourself down and thinking of a positive outcome which would benefit the scenario you are in. The moment you step out of the house and your evil-self starts showing pictures of you with messy hair, dark lips and oily skin. Know that it’s photo-shopped in your head and you look awesome.
2. Be your own best friend
Be self-compassion instead of self-pity. We expect so much from ourselves that it becomes our own fall. Take a few minutes off. Treat yourself with the same respect and empathy with which you would treat your best friend. Because at the end of the day, you’ve to take care of yourself.
3. Titanium shield
This is when you feel centered, grounded and present but you don’t allow someone else’s storm and drama to spill over because negative moods are contagious. Always know the people pushing you and pulling you down. It’s better to avoid the negative people in your life. It’s hard to let go of people that’s been in your life for a long time, even after knowing they can be toxic. Humans are creatures of habit and it’s hard to let go, but in order to achieve your goals it’s important to surround yourself with people with the same drive and motivation. Because the closet five people around you can impact your life more than you know.
4. Boost your self-esteem
Practice the positive self-talk that works for you. Take a moment to see all the good qualities that you have. Sometimes we invest so much in helping others that we forget to look after ourselves. Yes, being a help to others can boost your self-esteem but it is more important to be there for yourself. Remember, self-care is never a selfish act.